I decided to take a blogging break for a few weeks. I was getting hit with the anti-OB, anti-hospital mentality everywhere I went and it was turning me off from my original goal. It's my own fault, really. I have this habit of immersing myself in whatever my current interests are, and as I result I frequently either get sick of the topic or totally overwhelmed.
I had my 20 week anatomy ultrasound and we found out we are having a girl! DH and I are so excited. One of each sex is such a blessing. And, oh, the baby girl clothes. One could go broke buying them! I've practiced impressive restrain thus far. I've only purchased 5 little outfits, and they were ALL on clearance.
At the used bookstore last weekend, I bought Husband-Coached Childbirth : The Bradley Method of Natural Childbirth. It's a recent edition, and I'm hoping that it will give us some more insight into the method so DH and I can determine whether or not it's "for us". I also contacted a "doula in training" who is working with clients for free as she earns her certification. I haven't met her in person yet and am actually feeling some anxiety over the idea of a doula in general.
I know they exist solely to advocate for and support the mother, but I am a private person (despite the public blog) and I'm worried that I might end up resenting her presence during my labor. Leave it to me to worry about absolutely anything. It's so hard to guess what will be the most helpful to you during a monumental event that hasn't occurred yet. Am I a Bradley person, a hynobirthing person, a doula person, or some combination of the three? I really have no idea.
More thinking to do. As usual. ;)
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The cool thing about a good doula is that if her presence at your labor is proving to be a problem for you -- she'll back off....I'm a very private laborer and while I didn't have a professional doula at my first HBAC, I had a friend and she knew to just go hang out somewhere else while I labored. Being there for the mom means NOT being "there" if that's what mom wants!
I interviewed a few just to test the waters. At the time I wanted to try VBAC in the hospital still. It was the doula who said she worked w/an OB team set up at suchasucha great hospital where they had you all prepped for a c-section just in case, epidural, shunt for pit, efm, surgeons at the ready - just lay back and wait,....when I knew I should talk to a midwife as a possible doula. Talking to her is when everything turned around. I felt at home w/her and comfortable to be allout honest about my feelings re: VBAC and the anti-cesarean stance. Long story short, I ended up w/an HBAC. A doula was present who had had her own c/s and was pregnant w/her 2nd. I also had my midwife, her asst., and another midwife in the last hour, and my husband. Zero stress, no interruption, respectful, honest, encouraging, totally responsive when needed - perfect, in fact I felt they honored the entire process dearly. You can be empowered again just by going for it and feeling respected no matter how the journey ends...Yeah for trying!
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